Many women are only going to cum from oral sex. This is not your fault. I think sometimes men get unnecessarily upset that they are not able to make their woman cum from penetration alone because the truth is a lot of women just can't cum that way. If you give them what they need orally they are going to be that much more likely to give you what you need every other way.
So then, how do you go about pleasing a woman orally?
The truth is there's no simple answer. Women are all different and what works for one woman may not work for another. But that being said there are some guidelines you can use to be more successful.
The clit is Queen. It's the most important part of your woman's sexual anatomy and it's where all roads lead to with oral sex. But that does not mean you should head right into the clit right from the start. Women need to be preheated like a oven. Get her warmed up first before you touch the clit at all.
The clit is extremely sensitive. This is why you should warm up before you touch it. If you just dive right into the clit you could be causing much more pain than pleasure. It will be more of a turn off than a turn on. Imagine that the clit is like the head of your penis but shrunk down to a much smaller size. That's a lot of sensitivity in a small place, this is why the clit has a "hood." This keeps it protected. The hood itself is rather sensitive too. Many female orgasms come from the rubbing of the hood and the clit together.
The rest of the vagina is not nearly as sensitive. The labia in particular are not very sensitive at all.
We recommend that instead of diving right into this area you make sure she is extremely turned on first. You kiss her. You lick her neck. You kiss between her breasts. You touch her all over. Whatever turns her on. Once she's hot & ready then you make your way downstairs.
Get between her legs which are spread far apart. Locate her clitoris and use just your tongue to flick lightly across her clit from side to side. What's important to remember about this is that you are using just your tongue, keep your lips away. Also remember to do it lightly. The clit is very sensitive so treat it gently!
You can also experiment with putting your finger(s) into her vagina while you are doing this. Don't do this right away though, give her a little bit of time to get really wet first.
How long do you do this? Well as long as she wants it! Women usually take a lot longer than men to cum so be ready to give it the "old college try."
While the clit is by far the most important thing, you may want to mix it up a bit. Women usually like variety in this area. This is just something you will have to figure out from your lover because every woman is different. It's important to listen to what she's telling you whether verbally or physically.
If you can give your woman immense pleasure with oral sex she is likely to want to give you anything and everything you want as well!
